Pull Together and Dream

In this life I need to remember to leave time for myself. Like googles 20% time I need time to do things that I enjoy. I need to leave time to play with my kids, play the piano, sing, dance, get crafty, blog about my family, bake and get creative in the kitchen, read. I do not need to spend 20 % on each thing but 20% of my day discovering me and my talents and having fun. All work and no play makes Jack a very boring depressed person left with squashed creativity.

I like to think big. My husband however struggles with this he can only see a short distance into the future when we talk about our dreams. He sees the reality of this year or next. It is hard when we start talking about what we want our "dream house" to look like or be. It is not just a difference of taste, I assure you. It is a problem of being able to see a way to afford our dream. If he can't pay for it with what he has now then he gets frustrated and disgruntled. This is a sore spot for our marriage. It is difficult to make goals and dreams when one can't see ALL the future possibilities.

How do you get past the now to get to a dream and then work backwards to figure out the how.
Our conversation goes something like this:
Hubby: What do you want in your dream house?
I'm thinking, "oh he wants to dream with me! How fun and romantic!"
Me: "Well, I want a big master suite with a sitting room, his and hers closets, and marble counters in the bathroom, with tile floors in warm colors, etc."
Hubby: I can't afford marble countertops!!
Me: Oh, I thought we were dreaming.
Hubby: Yeah, but I don't want to be in debt for the rest my life and all eternity just to satisfy your extravagant desires that are not necessary.

This is usually where the conversation ends or goes down hill. I try to assure him that I don't have to have that much for survival and I can be happy in something smaller and without marble counter tops. But I tell you what, it's not a pleasant conversation

How do I help him stretch beyond what he can see now and see that the future can hold bigger dreams and income?

I've also learned that when you have a team, such as husband and wife, if you don't have the same dream you are automatically pulling in different directions and will get nowhere by default. If you want to get anywhere it takes both of you to get there. When speaking in terms of business and team if someone can't see the same dream as the rest they are pulling in a different direction and sometimes you have to cut the rope so you're not dragging extra weight or end up off course.

It is important to be unified, to dream, have goals and become something!